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18 Strategies to overcome failure with kindness and compassion

Self-discovery and the and the unwavering power of these values await for you after you fail, wanna know how?

Enrique Rubio
October 10, 2023
18 Strategies to overcome failure: kindness and compassion

In a previous article, I offered an approach to failure from a place of kindness and compassion. Now, it's time to bring you the main strategies to overcome failure using that kind and compassionate approach. These strategies provide the tools needed to navigate the complex emotional territory of failure.

By embracing self-compassion, learning from adversity, and fostering a growth mindset, you not only overcome the obstacles before you but also pave the way for the future with higher levels of resilience, self-discovery, and the unwavering power of kindness and compassion.

  • Embrace Self-Compassionate Language

Shift your inner dialogue from self-criticism to self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. When failure strikes, acknowledge your feelings and remind yourself that setbacks are a part of the journey.

  • Reframe Failure as Growth

View failure as a stepping stone toward growth rather than a dead end. Each setback is an opportunity to learn, adapt, and refine your approach. Embrace a growth mindset that welcomes challenges as pathways to improvement. Failure is not the end of the journey, but the beginning of a new one.

  • Practice Mindfulness

Engage in mindfulness techniques to ground yourself in the present moment. Mindfulness fosters self-awareness, allowing you to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment. This practice helps you avoid being swept away by negative self-talk.

  • Practice Self-Forgiveness

Forgive yourself for perceived mistakes and shortcomings. Remember that you are human, and we are inherently imperfect. Treat yourself with the same forgiveness and understanding you would offer to others.

  • Cultivate Gratitude

In the face of failure, intentionally focus on what you are grateful for. Gratitude shifts your perspective and reminds you of the positive aspects of your life, counteracting the tendency to dwell on what went wrong.

  • Set Realistic Expectations

Set achievable goals and recognize that failure is not synonymous with inadequacy. Adjust your expectations to reflect the reality of your abilities and circumstances, reducing the unreasonable pressure that often leads to fear of failure.

  • Practice Self-Care

Prioritize self-care during times of failure. Engage in activities that rejuvenate your spirit, whether it is spending time in nature, enjoying a hobby, or simply taking a moment to breathe deeply.

  • Seek Support

Reach out to your support network—friends, family, mentors, or therapists—when confronted by failure. Sharing your experiences and feelings with others can provide emotional relief and a fresh perspective.

  • Engage in Positive Self-Reflection

Reflect on your strengths, achievements, and past successes. Remember that failure does not define you; it is merely a part of your journey. Remind yourself of the challenges you have overcome before, highlighting your resilience.

  • Learn from Role Models

Study the journeys of people you admire who have overcome failure with resilience. Their stories can inspire and provide valuable insights into how to navigate setbacks. Role models remind us that failure is not an endpoint but a stepping stone.

  • Extend Kindness Beyond Yourself

As you work on overcoming your failures, extend kindness and compassion to others experiencing setbacks. Offer a listening ear, words of encouragement, or practical assistance. By practicing empathy, you contribute to a culture of support and collective growth.

  • Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate even the smallest victories along your journey. By recognizing your progress, you counteract the overshadowing weight of failure and build a positive momentum.

  • Visualize Success

Engage in visualization exercises where you imagine yourself overcoming challenges and succeeding. This practice not only boosts your confidence but also primes your mind to approach setbacks with a proactive and determined mindset.

  • Engage in Creative Expression

Channel your emotions into creative outlets such as writing, art, or music. Expressing yourself creatively can be cathartic, helping you process your feelings and gain clarity about your experiences.

  • Set Boundaries with Negative Influences

Limit exposure to people or environments that contribute to self-doubt or negativity. Surround yourself with people and experiences that uplift and support you, creating a nurturing space for growth.

  • Challenge All-or-Nothing Thinking

Avoid falling into the trap of all-or-nothing thinking, where failure is seen as a complete defeat. Recognize that setbacks are a natural part of progress and that each step forward, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction.

  • Focus on Your Strengths

Shift your attention to your strengths and talents rather than fixating on your weaknesses. Cultivating this level of self-awareness about what you excel at can boost your confidence and help you face failure with greater resilience.

  • Create a Failure Journal

Maintain a journal dedicated to documenting your failures and the lessons you have learned from them. This exercise helps you reframe failure as a source of wisdom and growth, making it easier to approach with kindness.

Moving Forward

By including these strategies in your life, you can transform failure from a paralyzing force into a growth catalyst and nurture your journey with kindness and compassion. Remember that each step you take toward kindness, compassion, and resilience is a testament to your unwavering capacity to rise above challenges and create a brighter, better world for yourself and others.

Editado por

Raquel Rojas

18 Strategies to overcome failure with kindness and compassion
Enrique Rubio
Founder - Hacking HR
Enrique is an HR, Tech, and Future of Work expert, keynote speaker, and founder of Hacking HR, a global learning community with thousands of members worldwide at the intersection of Future of Work, technology, business, and organizations.


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