The world needs more collective healing rituals

I never expected to hear these words directed towards me.

You are the collective healing rituals guy, right?!… nice to meet you!

Much less as I gazed dreamingly into the majestic Big Sur night sky. His words caught me off guard. I wanted to say “no”; however the familiarity in Vippin Thekk’s warm smile provoked a tilt in my head as I fathomed the core of my existence in attempt to associate “collective” and “healing” to myself and/or to my line of work.

Am I?”, I replied coyly. “Yes, your organization hosts talks on failure around the world, right? the Fuckup Nights!” I laughed heartily as I regained my sense of self and purpose, “Yes, that is what we do Vippin.” In a stroke of enlightenment, Vippin helped us realize that deep down, Fuckup Nights specializes in the art of healing, at a massive scale.

We need to ask more often

When was the last time you felt hurt after a flawed attempt at a professional or personal endeavor? Why did it hurt? Who was the first person you sought out? Does anyone else know?

Questions like these have led our team to host the most amazing conversations with incredibly brave and talented humans around the world.

We invite them to expose a traumatic experience of a failed endeavor in front of an audience. In doing so, we guide them so they find courage in sharing these compelling narratives from their most vulnerable and authentic selves.

By doing so, we create a liberating experience for them and their audience, thus, a safe space for people to heal collectively.

Why is this important to us? Well…

The only real biological advantage we have over most other species is our connection, our belonging; our ability to collaborate, plan, be in relationship with [each other] in special ways.

-John Cacioppo of the University of Chicago

The notion that our work helps deepen people’s understanding about their capacity to live fully by overcoming the shadows of their past or break from the “stigmas of society”, is very exciting and uplifting.

We tapped into a deep desire for healing, not at the expense of one another that oftentimes comes with the blame game when things fall apart, but rather by expanding our understanding of healing through the transformative power of vulnerability, transparency, forgiveness and love. YES… love.

Or, as Ruby Sales eloquently phrases this notion, “We’ve got to stop speaking about humanity as if it’s monolithic. We’ve got to wrap our consciousness around a world where people bring to the world vastly different histories and experiences, but at the same time, a world where we experience grief and love in some of the same ways. How do we develop theologies that weave together the “I” with the “We” and the “We” with the “I?

One can say we are in the business of healing and the good news is that: everybody hurts, sometimes. Thank you R.E.M. (drumroll, please?)

So… yes, the world needs more collective healing rituals.

Julio Salazar

Julio Salazar

Chief Operating Officer

Serial entrepreneur, highly skilled at failing and getting back up again. Thrives at the intersection of business, culture and impact, where he has cofounded global organizations made in Mexico with love. He believes we can detoxify the corporate cultures our parents had to endure through transparency, resiliency and creativity. Ask him how his heart is to provoke meaningful conversations, preferably with a strong drink in hand.