A message of resilience and vulnerability from our community

Yes, it’s happening. Everyone, everywhere is talking about it. Just for the record we’re only going to mention it a single time in this entire blog post: there’s currently a global pandemic with uncertain, health and economic consequences. Now, let’s move on: what are we going to do about it? 

Many people, companies, influencers and organizations are doing a great job of informing and taking care of what’s actually in our control. Not generating anxiety about the future: ourselves, and the way we deal with this situation. It’s called resilience.

And we want to join those voices.

So that’s why we asked some members of our community (Fuckup Nights organizers, HQ members and speakers), about what comes next. A message of resilience and vulnerability for these times of uncertainty:

Look for adaptability

Yes, we’re an event based company. We’ve been affected. That’s when adaptability comes into play. Our Global Business Development Lead, Yannick Kwik proposed that a new format of online webinars and experiences was a great option to continue impacting a huge number of employees and managers based in different places and countries. Although the magic and participation of a live event is difficult to replicate, the content, willingness to learn and insights remain the same whatever the format.

Adaptability can easily be blocked by fear of change and reluctance to leave our comfort zone. These emotions steal the amazing discoveries and learnings that come from adversity, and most importantly, the opportunity to give our minds a boost.

Above: A user commenting about our fucked up situation before an online event. 
Below: Same user commenting after the online event

A study made by a Neuroscience team at Yale, revealed that when facing uncertainty, our brains enter a “learning mode”. According to the study, a group of monkeys experienced high levels of activity in the frontal cortex, when scientists changed the probability of getting a reward from certain buttons, that were previously identified by the same primates as highly rewarding ones.

We know it can be difficult to leave your comfort zone, and to change in the midst of discouraging and uncertain situations, but it’s a great opportunity to adapt, learn and make the most of our brains. And to be prepared when “COVID 2: the virus strikes back” comes to your nearest theater (or any other kind of setback arises).

In this crisis, all those having to take responsibility for themselves and other, do not necessarily have similar experiences to build upon. At the same time, they need to speed up decision making processes and implementation, hance making mistakes is even more likely.

We need to show a good portion of compassion and be aware that judgement and criticism take away energy and focus from what is needed most right now and so are anything but helpful. 

-Romina Henle. Fuckup Nights Lugano

We asked our Enterprise team, (the people who are full of insights about company fuck ups and cultural lackings) to share some tips for making adaptability possible:

  • Empower people and generate leadership
  • Create a sense of belonging 
  • Clarity and trust are top values
  • Forget what you can’t control and focus on your team
  • Change your priorities
  • Change reporting and meeting processes
  • Over communicate within your team
  • Forget about micromanagement

And finally:

  • There are no crazy ideas right now.

Be vulnerable & generate a community

Although she wasn’t able to get feedback and see the faces of the audience, Marian Duven was one of the online speakers at the first Fuckup Nights Quarantine Edition event in the world (in Italy). A Series of online editions we launched in an attempt to keep sharing the failure instead of sharing handshakes and viruses, after many countries had to go into lockdown.

“More stories of resilience can help people cope better, they can relate and get some empowerment to keep going(…) I think a good community is the one that tackles the most recent needs of the people that are a part of it . 

-Marian Duven. Speaker at Fuckup Nights Italy

Community Coordinator and an important part of the Quarantine Editions logistics at Fuckup Nights, Alexis, recognizes there’s a need to create a “we’re all in this together” kind of feeling, beyond our own neighborhood, and city, and a particular importance of sharing fuckups to help people make the right decision in this uncertain context.

In times of crisis, more than ever, we need to create more Healing Rituals, even from home, safe online spaces to generate vulnerability.  A vulnerability that leads to empathy, the strongest tool humans have to create connections. We need, more than ever to feel we are part of a group and to show ourselves as we are, in order to give and get the support we need.

“This is a disruptive experience for our communities bringing up different challenges & needs (…) It is important to create spaces where people feel others are being present for them, spaces where people feel connected by sharing and / or by being listened to . 

-Romina Henle. Fuckup Nights Lugano

Eric Jiménez, Business Development Lead reminds us of the importance of acknowledging that we’re all going though the same:

“You’re probably facing the same difficulties as your colleagues. It’s important to generate spaces to “vocalize difficulties”, that’s what strengthens trust inside communities. The power of vulnerability as a connector is amazing, but we constantly forget about it. 

Remember Marian Duven, one of our first online speakers from Italy? She wanted to share some great tips to be more human, vulnerable and in contact with a community:

  • Show positivity
  • Share tools to cope with feelings of stress, isolation, anxiety – practical pieces of information or personal advice from members of the community in similar situations.
  • Open up safe spaces where people can share what they are going through with each other.
  • Encourage E-meeting new people
  • Create a space for community leaders to offer best practices and tools to deal with uncomfortable feelings/situations caused by the isolation.

Now, that’s what resilience looks like! In a nutshell, our advice is to adapt, be vulnerable and e-hang with your community as much as you can.

Open spaces at lunchtime with those you’re locked down with, or start organizing Instagram livestreams with friends: share what you feel, what you’re scared of, your hobbies and new routines, what you’re doing to adjust your business model, your freelance project. Or maybe join our next Quarantine Edition or bring a resilience webinar to your work colleagues.

Avoid fake and unnecessary bad news. 

Stay safe, we’ll be fine.